Unsupervised minds love drama…

"I am not where I should be in my career," a client shared with me. 

I heard (and said) this sentence too many times. So, if this is your case or you have a friend in this situation, here is a self-coaching process that can help.

But first, let's remember that our brains are marvelous tools. 

Give it a task, and it will execute it. 

Give it a problem, and it will solve it. 

Your brain's job is to produce solutions.

When everything is good in your career, it will happily deliver results. 

“The mind is its own place and, in itself can make a heaven of hell or a hell of heaven.” – John Milton

When the mind is at peace, it will put you on cloud nine. 

But when faced with a drop too much of a challenge, it will turn into a villain and start attacking your confidence.

It will tell you that you could've done or should've been more this or that. Or any variation that tastes like "not enough."

Here are a few ways you can coach yourself:                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           

1. First, approach this thought with curiosity.

Change happens when we are able to recognize and accept our current state. 

Your brain will resist this step at all costs because it unconsciously thinks it means surrendering to this "not enough" spot and that you will forever stay stuck there. 

Don't believe that.

Bypassing this step will only lead to the problem repeating itself. 

2. Then explore the emotion.

We resist acceptance because we don't want to feel discomfort! 

Good news, Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, a Harvard-trained neuroscientist, says, "there's a 90-second chemical process that happens in the body; after that, any remaining emotional response is just the person choosing to stay in that emotional loop. "

If you ask me, I'll feel any emotion for 90 seconds rather than staying trapped in not-enoughness. 

3. Finally, you can see your career issue as separate from yourself. 

 "Not being where you should be" does not make you an unworthy person. 

In fact, feelings of unworthiness are sure signs the brain tricked you 👻.

It made you believe that the external issue was due to an internal failure.

The funny thing is that the brain can also do the exact opposite thing and lure you into seductive thoughts...

Some call it marketing :)

Let your brain play the villain until Halloween, then let's put it back in the passenger seat. 

Much love,

Agathe